Technology enables us to add filters to everything these days, and yet, if you look at this photo you can gaze upon the beauty Mother Earth has provided with absolutely no filter whatsoever. This is as she intended, to see her work in all its wondrous glory. Bold, bright, glorious.
Taking this photo reminded me how little I filter myself or my life anymore and how uplifting and empowering that is. No it doesn’t make me the most popular girl in class but at least I am being my authentic self and living my values – I am am happy with that.
What do I mean by no filters?
Let’s begin with what I see – I see things, places and people as they are. I seem to have an ability to see through the facade / filter that people place upon themselves and how they are living. I am able to see though people I guess would be a way to put it. I see the raw, the beautiful, the untainted you – and its far more beautiful than the picture you paint over the top – I see your honesty, I see your truth, I see the love you are scared to feel or give. I see you and wish you could see you too – you would love the you I see. I know I do.
When you speak what do I hear? I hear the words between the lines – that place where no filter is possible, where a cover up simply cannot reach. Don’t lie to me, I can hear the true words beneath yours. Don’t tell me you are fine, I can hear the words underneath the pain and torment and overwhelm you are experiencing. Don’t tell me you care, I can see the actions do not match – if you care, show me.
When I speak, I speak the truth. This does not make me popular as people prefer the lies, the half truths, the fantasy, the ego caressing words that we tend to speak to each other. Finally I speak as my mother always taught me – honestly, as I see things and people and if I have nothing nice to say, I simply keep quiet and observe. If I am angry, I am quiet. If I am thinking, I am quiet. If I see something beautiful, or if I have a kind word that someone needs to hear, I speak it out loud to the one who needs to hear it, stranger or friend. If we have to move on, I say goodbye with love, no matter how hard that is.
You touch me with your pain, your need for friendship or love, your desire to be cared for or heard. You sometimes touch me with uncaring words, or hurtful looks or gestures. You sometimes have no other way of expressing yourself except through touching the ones you most care about with your hurt, trying to transfer it to someone else so you no longer feel it. You, if I am lucky enough to gain your trust, allow me to touch you. Only ever with the intent of care, love, attention, healing and the inner peace you are searching for to allow you to begin again. Touch is my gift – allow me to give.
Sometimes filtering can leave a sour taste in our mouths and even our hearts. It is at that moment we need to speak our truth. I speak mine through how I love, how I act, how I speak, how I live and who I am. I am not perfect and sometimes that taste in my mouth is there, the uncomfortable weight sits on my chest, the busyness begins in my head, I start to doubt myself and I know I have to take a deep breath and say what I know to be true. If I lose you, we have had our time and we both move on. I will mourn you a while but know it is right. If we stay and we travel together a while, I know we have a journey of discovery, loyalty, laughter and opportunity ahead and can’t wait to begin.
Filter what you say and you hurt yourself, you fester and a part of you dies. Take away those filters and you will discover a true you, a happier you and a stronger more empowered you underneath. Like everything else, it isn’t easy, you will make errors and it will take time for it to become your normal, but when it does, watch the world become brighter, the love you give out come back twice as large and be ready to feel a sense of peace you may have lost of never experienced before.
Live Life: No Filters.