Have you ever suddenly stopped and wondered how did I get here, how did I get myself in this situation or when did I allow life to get ahead of me so I didn’t know where I was or how I got here? So stop!
There are times when you have to just stop, stand still, breathe and take a look around you. Are you where you want to be? Have you achieved what you want to achieve? Are you doing what you need to be doing to get to where you want to be? If the answer is no to any of these then it’s time to step back and reevaluate.
Life moves at a hugely fast pace sometimes and we get pulled along in the flow and can’t get off. It’s a bit like a small twig in a raging river, bouncing along, being thrown about by the power of the river and never being able to rest or get to the side to step away from the rush, the noise, the speed. You have to try. You have to find a way to step away and take stock.
If you find you aren’t sure what is going on around you, who people are that you are interacting with (on a personal level) or you aren’t finishing anything you start or keep repeating what you do as you can’t remember where you got to or even worse you do nothing but seem to be permanently busy, then again it’s time to step away and take stock.
I hear so many people around me saying they don’t have time. We all have time as we are the creators of our own time. There are obvious restrictions on time when you work for someone else but how you deal with your own time is your choice. Ask yourself if you really need to be doing what you are doing. Are you spending an hour and a half just poking round someone else’s life on Facebook, do you need to watch that soap? I’m not saying you shouldn’t but if you say you don’t have time to read or meet up with a loved one or take your kids somewhere or take a painting class or learn a new language then you have to be really brutal with yourself and see where you are wasting your time.
Try taking ten minutes today to really take a look at your life and ask yourself a few hard questions. Are you doing what you want to be doing as a career? Are you living where you want to live? Are you sharing life with the loved ones and friends who you want to spend time with or are they that river dragging you faster than you want? Do you take time out, even an hour a week, just for you? Are you doing too much for everyone else and is it because you have to, because it’s a habit or because they are taking advantage of your willingness to do it? Hard questions and be honest.
The next ten minutes is to evaluate where you want to be. This is possibly easier. And use this time as a ‘no barriers / no filters’ session where it can be anything at all. Dream big.
The final ten minutes you can start to think how to get there. Bite size wins, take the easy ones first so you really feel the achievement. None of this has to be earth shattering, it’s whatever gives you time to be the person you were always meant to be. Even just doing these three things you have given yourself thirty minutes time back and had your thoughts and some peace and reevaluated who you are and where you want to go next on the journey that we call life!